How can we stop bullying? it is the common denominator in the lives of school shooters?

Also, don't you think young victims of bullying are getting poor examples of how to deal with the problem? I mean they are getting ideas from what they see in media broadcasts. The Virginia Tech shooter appeared to admire the Columbine shooters. How can we stop all this madness? Are we going to have to homeschool our kids or have them take all their classes online?

How can we stop bullying? it is the common denominator in the lives of school shooters?
Teaching respect for one another, and knowing how to take a joke. Knowing that you're not always going to be number 1, the best, the winner, the most popular, the best looking, the smartest. Accepting that we have to share the earth with all living things and have respect for ourselves. And most importantly - PARENTS THAT ACTUALLY PARENT THEIR CHILDREN.
Reply:I don't think bullying causes mass murder. That's kind of a big stretch. This gunman was obviously a paranoid schizophrenic with the worst possible form of the illness. Most paranoiacs would never do such a thing. But paranoia is common in mass murderers, though many are not mentally ill at all.


That said, of course I agree that we should work to stop bullying. It does cause some serious social problems, and often most of all for the bullies themselves, who never learn to function well in society. This kind of behavior should not be tolerated.
Reply:We cannot stop bullying. Kids are mean to each other, it is a fact. The kids that can deal with it basically find friends who accept them and live thier lives.





The kids that cant accept it become loners and outcasts because they refuse to accept the people that offer friendship to them. Then they blame thier problems on everyone else, and results in stuff like this.
Reply:Bullying does not excuse the actions of a mass murderer but it still is a blight in our schools. We have even had bullies write answer to this question saying "Stop whining". If you see bullying by young people put a stop to it right away. No one should be a victim of a bully, who is really just a coward.
Reply:There have always been mean kids - this is nothing new. Mental illness, poor self-esteem, poor coping skills, and poor social skills are all factors when on who was bullied snaps.





There will always be bullies. They should not be tolerated in schools. However, targets of bullies need help also. They need to be taught that self-esteem comes from doing good works. They need to be taught that who they are as a person, and their character defines them, not what some bully says about them. They need to learn how to defend themselves and resolve conflict successfully.





This is called life. Life is tough. Kids need to be taught how to successfully deal with the tough situations of life. Perhaps that is the problem - many adults don't even know how do deal with the tough situation of life - how are they going to teach the children when they don't do it themselves.
Reply:Parents need to start parenting their children. Period. Too many parents do not want to take the time to actually teach their children the difference between right and wrong, and being respectful to other people-so many children have no idea how to be kind to other people. They are too busy having the "It's all about me" way of thinking.


To be honest, I don't think that the news media is giving anyone any new "ideas". If they are that fed up with life in general, and feeling like a martyr, I guarantee they have already thought of doing things along the same like as what happened at VT.
Reply:Reporting bullying to people who can do something


and if you see someone thats getting bullyed then talk to them and have compassion for them and let them know that because this is happening dosent mean everyone feels that way and encourage them t report the bullys
Reply:the answer is today's society.
Reply:It's a growing problem with a lack of accountability among parents.





Teach your kids that it's not OK to be a bully. Be part of their lives. You should know if your kid is one.





On the flip side, encourage your children every day. A confident kid doesn't get bullied as much as the ones who are timid and un-confident. They just aren't as easy targets. And if they are getting bullied, they shouldn't be afraid to tell someone.





Parents need to be more involved. And they need to teach their kids to be empathetic, caring individuals. That's the only way to stop this stuff.
Reply:This is the fact that we have to take because of the changes of this world. Where there is a factor, there is its consequence. A happening actually leads to another next. Apparently, the culprit of this shooting, Cho was traumatized or haunted by his past memory that many schoolmates pushed, teased, bullied and laughed at him with the word starting with letter 'F'. Somehow, we would ignore and forget to attend this sort of person. Consequently, tragedy took place that has struck us and so was the shooting in Virginia Tech. Sometimes, I feel that American should not be vulgar nor rude as what they did to Cho....If American have been mild, gentle and caring, this would not have happened. This shooting is not related to racism or racial prejudice so please don't take it as racial war. Chill out and do not overreact, stirring up the unnecessary racism or discrimination. There used to be the similar cases of shootings in America but done by Americans themselves in schools. Therefore, it's all about the lack of kindness of US, leading to all these tragedies. By the way, so far, guns and riffles are so accessible and approachable in US so that might be a reason. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO PAY DUES, JUST BEHAVE YOURSELVES and BE MERCIFUL
Reply:no
Reply:I think a lot of people at some point in their life, will feel picked on or bullied. Adolescence is tough for a lot of kids. However, most of them deal with it, learn from the adversity, and grow up just fine. Anyone that can take a gun to their classmates has mental issues, and that is the deciding factor in how they react to problems they have with their peers.





I do think that teachers %26amp; school administrators should keep an eye out for bad cases of bullying, but so should parents. Parents should raise their children in such a way that they will feel comfortable talking to them about problems they are having at school.





I don't think home schooling is the answer, kids need to learn how to socialize with others. And they need to learn that not everyone will like them, the grown-up working world is also unfriendly at times. Keeping children at home and isolated will not help them when it comes time to grow up.
Reply:Stop bullying?.. its called stand up and be a man. Ever heard of Darwin? Survival of the fittest? How about stop crying and being a wimp! Christ, all this whining about cry babies. That VT Killer was a pathetic cry baby and took the cowards way out. If you don't like the world you live in move on or seek some mental health help. Victims of bullying? They make themselves their own victims and then make others victims of their own problems. I am so glad he is dead. I only wish the last victim was the first then we would not have all this boo hoo over a piece of crap like the VT Killer.
Reply:put a perant in class must scedule for the kids.one perent must report to a class for there child and sign a statement stating what time and what class the perant whent to with the child put a cam in every class so the perant can see and talk to the child.
Reply:There really isn't away to stop bullying. Unfortunately, it still continues today. I think we just have to try to raise our children with secure self-estimate. This way they would feel the need to pick on anyone else to make themselves feel good. It just boils down to respecting yourself and others.
Reply:Damn, I wish I could yell on a keyboard. YOU STOP BULLYING BY BEATING THE BULLY TO THE GROUND! KIDS NEED TO KNOW HOW TO DEFEND THEMSELVES INSTEAD OF COWERING AND "REPORTING" THE BULLY!





My generation (I'm 51) did not have these problems. Yes we had bullies... each of them finally met their match on the playground or in an alley and got bloodied up. We didn't get expelled for defending ourselves,indeed, we didn't even get in trouble. We had no school shootings. We had no bullying problems, at least none that lasted very long.
Reply:Don't blame bullying. It's a natural part of growing up. Granted, it shouldn't be taken too far.





Instead of trying to hide and shelter children from occassional humiliation, we should teach them how to deal with it. Kids need to learn how to cope with the stresses and pressures of everyday life.
Reply:The common denominator amongst the perpetrators in school shooters is that they refuse to take responsibility for their actions.
Reply:In order to strengthen a nation or society the family must be strengthened. We can learn and teach values and morales in our homes. That goes both ways for those who bully and those who receive the affliction. We can learn to be kind and caring in an environment of love in the home, which will be reflect in our families, friendships, schools work, on the road, in society, etc. If the home and moral standards are destroyed, then the society or a nation will follow with it.
Reply:This is a really good question. Since most bullying takes place at school,there should be a zero tolerance to this problem. Teachers and parents need to come together on this to help stop the bullying. Some kids can take it and learn to fight back but other kids let it build up until they snap. I know some kids who are home schooled because of this very problem.

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